You can’t tell how someone feels just by looking at them or what they share online to the outside world. Our lives may look perfect even if in reality they aren’t. I’m always worrying about doing well at school and with the end-of-year test coming up I’m not sure how much longer I can cope.
My thoughts swarm around my head sometimes keeping me up all night. Some days it’s just all too much and I feel like I’m lost in space when I did badly on one of my tests. I just about kept it together until I got home then I broke down crying in front of my mum. She listened for a bit and then she told me that just like physical health.
We all have mental health. It’s our feelings, our thinking, our emotions and our moods. She then said that feeling down, anger and stress is a normal part of life. Just like it’s normal to feel happy confident and carefree. Sometimes we all have positive and negative emotions that come and go based on what’s happening around us.
These are everyday feelings. Good mental health means experiencing negative emotions. I take a break from everything and do something I enjoy. I made myself a hot chocolates then watched a film and you know what afterwards I felt so much better. Most of us only ever shared the good things. We don’t like to share how we really feel every morning.
When I wake up, negative thoughts streamed through my head. Getting out of bed and pretending I’m okay takes all the energy I have as the day goes on. The negative thoughts turn from a stream into a river the water rushes through my head so loudly. It’s hard to concentrate in lessons and some days it’s so bad it feels like a waterfall that trying to pull me over the edge.
If we’re physically unwell we let people know. We asked for help. It should be no different with mental health. Sometimes our overwhelming feelings are brought on because of things in our life. Sometimes they happen for no reason at all. After hearing this I felt much less alone and it felt good to talk.
Scientists have found exercise can help when you’re feeling low. Now I’m beginning to understand my mental health. I’m learning how to cope. Every year my mom reminded me that my friends, my family, teachers and lots of others at school are there to help just as much as she is. I had no idea that people around me could be so understanding and while it’s not always easy to talk about my mental health, the person I’m talking to you might be able to help.
If you don’t feel like talking, that’s fine. You could try writing, sports, reading, art, music, playing with your pet, whatever makes you feel better. If you’re the person someone talks to when they’re struggling, just listen with no pressure or judgments. You don’t have to have the answer. If you feel unsure about anything you can speak to a trusted adult. Talking about mental health doesn’t have to be difficult. After all it is something we all have.